Divorce and Separation

Rebuilding identity and trust after a relationship ends, including long-term marriages and later in life divorce.

Divorce is one of the most disorienting experiences a person can go through. Not just because a relationship is ending, but because so much of your identity, your daily life, and your sense of the future is bound up in your relationship. When it unravels, it can feel like the ground beneath you is gone.

Whether you initiated the divorce or didn't see it coming, whether it was a long time coming or an unexpected shock, the grief is real. So is the anxiety, the loneliness, the worry about what comes next, and the exhausting work of figuring out who you are on the other side.

Who This Work Is For

I work with individuals navigating divorce at any stage, from just thinking about it but not ready to make the jump; to working through the early days of shock and disbelief, through the legal and practical unraveling; to the longer, quieter work of rebuilding your life and sense of self. I work with folks of all ages, including young people with kids, people in midlife, and folks facing gray divorce — the particular complexity of ending a long marriage later in life, when the years invested and the life built together make the loss even heavier.

You might be here because you are scared of what’s next, or feel like you've lost yourself somewhere in this process. Or because you're struggling with anger, grief, guilt, or relief, sometimes all at once. Or because you want to make sense of what happened so you don't carry it into your next chapter.

What the Work Looks Like

We start where you are. There's no agenda, no timeline, no pressure to be further along than you are. What matters is creating a space where you can be honest about what you're actually experiencing, not the version you're presenting to your kids, your friends, or your ex.

We'll work on understanding your part in the patterns that shaped the marriage, not to assign blame, but because that understanding is what allows real change. We'll address the anxiety and depression that almost always accompany major loss. And we'll work toward a clearer, more grounded sense of who you are and what you want your life to look like now.

This isn’t about getting over it quickly. This is about getting through it well, in a way that helps you come out on the other side stronger and more at peace with things.